Saturday, November 19, 2011

Who is this Person I call My BKFF (Best Kingdom Friend Forever)? By Denise Chand

True friends are always together in spirit." - Anne of Green Gables

"It’s an insane world but in it there is one sanity, the loyalty of old friends." - Ben-Hur

There are friends, there are best friends forever, and then there are, what I refer to as best kingdom friend forever (“BKFF”). I believe the latter is the greatest. It has a cord that intertwines the two spirits, tightly knitting them together, where it can never be broken and that cord is the Holy Spirit. It is a friendship with a greater purpose than meets the eye. Aside from companionship, their individual callings (purpose) in life are connected for a greater cause. Such friendship will be subject to and endure great challenges coming from all ends of the spectrum, but that cord will never break; rather, it becomes stronger, bringing clarity to the purpose of the friendship. BKFFs speak a different language; they function by a different set of rules! I speak so often of my BKFF, Jennifer John, who is truly a blessing from God in my life. She knows me more than anyone on this earth, she understands me even when I don’t understand myself, she sharpens and corrects me (after much debate, I accept her correction!) and she’s constantly making me laugh. A day without laughter is a wasted day, we certainly don’t have wasted days! What I love about my BKFF is her heart…it’s pure, full of love and compassion. For these reasons and more, we know our husbands must be friends (yes, we’re single and enjoying our singleness as we’re fulfilling our God-given purpose)! I decided to sit with my BKFF and interview her to allow you to see a glimpse of this beautiful woman of God’s heart. We met at our favourite café for breakfast. At the time she had no idea I was writing this Blog and of course my questions threw her into a tailspin. “Why do you want to interview me?” She shrieked. I take it she didn’t trust me. “I don’t trust you, why do you want to interview me? What are you up to?” I take it she has trust issues and always thinks I’m up to no good, but with two cups of Amaretto coffee and a hearty breakfast she’ll be fine and I’ll be able to have my interview! As predicted, I was able to conduct my interview with ease. I started off with an easy one.

Q: Do you prefer Coca-Cola or Pepsi?
A: Coca-Cola. It’s not as sweet as Pepsi.

Q: If you could meet anyone in the world dead or alive who would it be and what would you say to them?
A: My grandmother, my mom’s mother, who died before I was born. I would talk to her about her life, her life when she was a child…to have a better sense of family history.

Q: If you were stranded on a desert island, what three items would you want to have with you?
A: This is tough question. I guess a writing journal, very good book to read and a box of matches (What about a pen, what would she use to write with?!).

Q: You and I are constantly telling single women of all ages to enjoy their singleness. How are you enjoying your singleness?
A: By doing the things I love to do and focusing on my purpose.

Q: Most people turn to God when they’ve hit rock bottom, in a desperate situation without hope. Why did you decide to fully give your life to God – where did He meet you? And how do you describe your relationship with God?
A: There wasn’t anything tragic that made me turn to Him. It’s when I moved to Toronto I felt very much alone. I knew of Him but have never experienced Him, if that makes sense. I’ve been taught of Him but never experienced Him and I needed answers…I knew my life could be better, plus I was battling with the relationship I was in. I just wanted my life to change. My relationship with God now is challenging at times. I’m learning a lot about myself in waiting for the things I’m desiring from Him for my life, my family. I’m just learning about Him and what this personal relationship with Him is all about.

Q: What’s your favourite book?
A: It’s weird but I don’t have a favourite book…I don’t have one. There are books I like and enjoyed but I can’t say I have a favourite book. (Hey, what about the Bible!!)

Q: What advice would you give to begin fulfilling your dreams?
A: Know what you’re willing to sacrifice in order for that dream to come to pass. When you know what you’re willing to sacrifice then you’ll know what you’re willing to do to make that dream come to pass.

Q: If you could be any character in an animated movie, who would you be and why?
A: Wonder Woman. Because of her strength, independence and the heart she has for people.

Q: You’re an advocate on giving back to your community. Tell us how you’ve given back and what you’re currently doing to give back? (By this time, she was down to her third refill of coffee and feeling the pressure!)
A: I use to volunteer in after school programs, helping children with their education. I also volunteered at food banks, helping people who were living below the poverty line or just barely above it in giving them hot meals and groceries. I’m currently working on an initiative to educate people in high-risk communities to help them break poverty cycles.

Q: I always ask everyone I meet “what’s your word”, so what’s your word?
A: Opportunity. Because it only takes one to change a life.

Q: As I’m feeling a little exhausted from writing your answers, let’s end our interview with you saying something to our readers. What would you like to say to our readers before we end this interview?
A: Take time to discover what your purpose in life is, and when you know it pursue it with everything that’s in you because everything you desire in life is connected to it!

Thank you my BKFF for allowing me to interview you!

Keep an eye out for our upcoming online series “With D & J”.

God Bless,

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1 comment:

  1. To those reading this post, I most tell you that I was hijacked for this other words, I was interviewed under "duress" by my very own BKFF. Nonetheless enjoy:)